Let’s take a clear look at why some people Pull Away when you Shine.
Sometimes, someone walks into a room and a few people choose to shift away. They look away from you. They keep their distance. They avoid eye contact and they definitely don’t say hello to you.
But Why exactly? It’s confusing -especially when the person who just walked in has done nothing wrong. They are warm, kind, open and only walked into the event. Why do some people pull away?
This experience is more common than most people realize. It usually has very little to do with words or behavior. It has more to do with energy. It has to do presence …with what someone naturally carries inside.
Some people hold a calm, steady energy that Others are not used to.
People who have done deep healing work often carry themselves differently. They are calm. They are grounded. They are aware. You can feel their presence when they walk into a room. They are not trying to impress anyone. They are just who they are.
For some people, this kind of energy feels good, safe and even inspiring. For some though, the presence of a healed person feels very uncomfortable. This is not because the person who walked in is doing anything wrong but, more because their energy brings feelings to the surface for those who have not done self work.
Everyone has things they’re working on and through.
When someone who is clear and grounded enters a space, it can make others feel their own anxiety more. It can highlight things they have not faced yet. Things like old pain, insecurity or areas of life that they are avoiding.
Instead of sitting with the feeling, their brain may try to place blame:
- “She is just full of herself”
- “He thinks he’s so much better than everyone here”
- “Why do they have to be sooooo intense”
What is really happening is this:
Their spirit is reacting to the contrast.
They sense something in that person is holding a presence and energy of strength or freedom and this reminds them internally of where they are frozen or stuck in life.
This is not about being judgmental. This about Awareness.
Many people with strong energy are used to being told they are “intimidating” or “too much.” Often, they are not even being aggressive at all though.
What is really happening is that other people’s unhealed emotions are getting stirred up in your presence. It feels easier to project blame than to face what’s rising inside of them. This doesn’t mean anyone is better or worse. It just means some people are more ready to face themselves than others.
Our bodies feel energy before our minds do.
Science backs this up now. The nervous system picks up on energy first- much sooner than we even say a word. If someone is used to chaos or stress, they might feel unsettled around someone who is peaceful and grounded. It may feel unfamiliar. It may even feel threatening. So, they may choose to keep their distance – not because of anything you said or did, but because your calm energy does not match their inner world.
This is a subconscious reaction, not a conscious decision.
Some people will be drawn to your light. Some will run from it.
If you are someone who shines bright, who speaks truth, who stands tall or simply carries peace – you may notice certain people drift away, gossip or keep you at arm’s length. This doesn’t mean you have done anything wrong. This means your presence brings something to the surface in them that they are not ready to look at yet.
Let them stay away.
What You Are Really Carrying Is The Frequency of Healed Energy And Those Who Are Not Ready To Heal Feel Uncomfortable Around Someone Who Has Done The Self Work To Heal.
When someone has walked through the dark night of the soul it shows.
When you have faced yourself, healed trauma, made peace with your past and chosen truth over comfort … you don’t just “seem different.”
You are different – energetically, physiologically, vibrationally and spiritually.
Your nervous system holds more coherence.
Your aura (yes, scientifically measurable) radiates more clarity and steadiness. Your voice carries resonance. Your presence creates a shift in a space – without effort.
This is not charisma. This is not force. This is what happens when the soul returns to it’s center and the body learns how to hold the new healed frequency.
People who carry this new healed frequency have usually:
- Moved through grief, betrayal or deep loss
- Done inner work with honesty and devotion
- Taken full responsibility for their healing
- Sat with discomfort instead of running from it
- Let false versions of themselves die, again and again
They are not better than anyone else but, they are more integrated and integration is magnetic to some while repelling to others.
This Healing Frequency Doesn’t Just Shine Brightly – It Exposes.
To those who are also healing, this kind of energy light feels like home. It feels safe, trustworthy, grounding and expansive.
To those who are committed to avoidance, it can feel like a spotlight shining on everything they are trying to hide.
….and this is why it gets misread so often.
What they feel in your presence is not judgment …. it is their own dissonance. It is their own misalignment becoming too loud to ignore.
Their system interprets your light as discomfort and attaches this discomfort to you.
The truth is: your light is just holding up a mirror to them. A calm, clear mirror that does not lie.
The truth is ….some people may never be ready for that mirror.
There are people who will never do the work in this lifetime. That is not cruelty or failure. This is their soul’s path.
Some people will spend this lifetime running from themselves, avoiding responsibility, clinging to distraction by staying constantly busy or numbing themself.
They will find people like you confusing, triggering or threatening. This isn’t because you have done anything wrong but, because you no longer play the game of avoidance with them.
So, they will pull back and away from you.
They will talk about you to others.
They will ghost.
They will create stories to justify their own discomfort.
Let them.
You do not need to defend your healing.
Not Everyone Is Meant To Walk Beside You And That Is Okay.
As more people begin their healing journey, these dynamics become easier to understand.
What used to feel like rejection starts to feel like clarity.
You stop taking it personally.
You stop shrinking or over-explaining.
You start trusting who comes closer and who decides to walk away.
Those who are meant for your light will stay. Those who recognize your healing light energy will joyfully come closer. Your tribe will appear.
A Closing Reflection For When People Stay Away.
If you have ever felt the sting of being avoided, misunderstood or quietly excluded….
Pause.
Breathe.
Come back to what is true.
You did not do anything wrong.
Your presence is simply strong.
Not everyone is ready to stand in that healing light field.
Let this be your gentle reminder:
- Your light is not a problem. It is the signal that others are still learning to understand.
- Energy does not lie. The nervous system always responds to what is real.
- Not everyone will meet you where you’re at. This is not your burden. This is their boundary.
- Your tribe will find you. The ones who vibrate on your frequency will feel peace in your presence.
Keep walking in your truth.
Keep shining bright without explanation.
When the discomfort in others arises (because it will) …meet it with compassion.
Not all will understand your light but, the ones meant for you will feel safe in it.
This, too, is part of the sacred work.
This is what the healing light frequency does.
It awakens.
It mirrors.
It clears.
It elevates
Most of all, it invites those who are ready to rise and shine.
Those who have done the work will recognize you instantly.
With them, your frequency will feel like home.
So, let them come.
Let the others fall away.
Let your energy speak before your words ever do.
Your healing frequency of light is not just what you carry….
It is who you are….
A bright shining beacon of healing light who is meant to shine.
Unapologetically.
Unshakable.
In light, truth and healing frequency,
Jennifer Lisa Way
Soul Way Frequencies
Ordained Minister and Founder
Moving Souls From Survival Into Thriving Frequencies
